and i found a small orange bottle with a small white label and i thought.
and i thought YES, RELIEF. YES, RELIEF. double the dosage and everything will be alright.
and i twisted off your childproof cap and i eagerly dumped you into my palm and a furious rush of disappointment swept through my entire body. all that sat in my hand were round clay beads.
You were going to be the best thing about tonight. You had such potential and now you are just a round clay bead.
FUCK YOU
i hate you and i love you but i think i might finally hate you a little more than i love you.
don’t think about all those things you fear. just be glad to be here.
where once there was gentlemen, now there is you.
The Anxious / Ambivalent Adults
Insecure attachment styles can be further divided into two or three categories. Around 20% of the people in relationships adopt what researchers call “Anxious/Ambivalent” styles. These people often find themselves more eager to get very close to their lovers than their lovers do to them. While their primary complain is that their lovers seem unwilling to get as close as they hope for, their major worry is abandonment. The word “ambivalent” describes a frequent love-hate relationship.
Other characteristics include:
High breakup rate despite deep involvement
Intense grieving following loss
Unstable self-esteem combined with self-doubt
Prefer being “cuddly” than actual sex
Although like to work with others, often feel under-appreciated
Views spouse as unsupportive
Daydreams about success but often unable to sustain efforts
Vulnerable to eating disorders
Perceive parents as intrusive and unfair
Tend to be emotional, especially when under stress
Worry about rejection during daily interactions
Have a tendency to self-disclose to every one and like others to disclose
Jealous and untrusting
Easily distracted by mood swings (even when it is positive) Preoccupied with personal relationships; can’t turn thoughts away
Hostility and anger
More likely than other attachment styles to be overtaken by religious emotions
Afraid of separation
Afraid of death
And I got passive aggressive because I was mad that I didn’t know if I should stay or go home and we didn’t talk for two days because you thought that I was bitter and because I was bitter and then you said let’s cook spaghetti together and I heard that word together and I brought the noodles and you got the sauce and we cooked spaghetti together together together and we sat across from each other at the table and you filled my glass until the water almost spilled over the edges but only almost and then we went to sleep which means that you went to sleep and I laid there with sweat on my forehead and my jeans uncomfortable and the blanket half on and the blanket half off but I was happy because your shoulder was under my head and my arm was across your chest and your forearm and your hands and your knees and your head and… and your alarm went off and you took a shower and went to work and I went home and caught up on sleep and you had time between work and your next class and you played video games and I watched you play video games and laughed when you lost and we ate leftover spaghetti and watched tv and fooled around and you went to math class and I went to drawing class and I love you.